I'm so proud of my boys

On Saturday my boys made me so proud. We had a make up baseball game scheduled and it was gonna be hot and sunny, a great for baseball . The coach called with a dilemma, we didn't have anyone to umpire the game. We were already short coaches, with my husband at work and another with a previous commitment so he asked if my 13 yr old would umpire . I was reluctant at first because it meant that he would be the official of the game that his two younger brothers were playing in. It could be a disaster an embarrassing, horribly ugly nightmare. See all three boys have tiny little fusses that ignite like dynamite if the conditions are right.........

So he decides to take the job becasue there is $10 in it and I explain that this is a good time to get comfortable and learn becasue of the coaches that are playing. They are mild mannered and we know them quite well and Dad is not here.....another plus. At least he was going to have pads on in case one of his brothers went a little crazy with the bat!

He showed such maturity becasue even when he wasn't sure of a call he asked and was really trying to learn. He didn't let his brothers get to him at all. As for the other two, Lucas struck out with a questionable 3rd strike but only said " WHAT?" and walked off. For Lucas that was really good! That was a big relif for me. Then the Ultimate test............Matt pitching, Lucas Catching and Mitch Umpire. Whoa.....I think the coach was trying to be funny, I was nervous! Well at least two of the three had protective gear on in case batts started swinging.

They did Great! They really showed me that they can do it , if they really try. Now, we did win the game in extra innings. Matt stole home for the winning run, and it was a close call but it was a good call. I don't want to think what would have happened if we had lost. If Mitch called Matt out at the plate.........but he didn't and he made the right call.

I am proud of my boys, a well played game , trying something he had never done before and showing self control. It was a good day except for the sunburn.

Wordless Wednesday.................

Which one are You?

I consider myself a protective Mother. But when I look at the pictures I took of my oldest son jumping his bike I have mixed feelings. On one hand I'm like, Whoa nice jump.........then I say........ why did you let him jump his bike AND take pictures of it?

So ,I'm torn between my own two worlds. I let me kids do things that to others may seem risky. And I don't let them do things that some people think are silly, like ride their bikes on the sidewalk in front of the house. Now don't get me wrong , I'm not putting my 8 yr old on a dirt bike and race around the woods. But I do let him drive, their most prized possession, a go cart. OK ...It has a roll cage and seat belts...

I think that we all allow our kids to do as much as we would do ourselves. If you are the type of person that would never even want to jump a bike then you may not let your children try it either. I believe that we parent within our own limitations. Meaning that if I am uncomfortable with the situation that I will naturally limit my children in the same situation. I would love to jump on that bike.

Is that because we have had a negative experience in that situation or are afraid of our children having a negative experience at all?

Take the corners fast and ride hard but wear your helmet!

Grow up

I wish that people would act their age. Now this statement pertains to those who are young and old. Those people who shrug their responsibilities, act like hormone driven teenagers, or make questionable decisions what could effect your children forever. Now, I'm not taking about the fact that, if given the opportunity, I would jump on the whirly round at the playground. That's just plain fun.

I'm tired of making excuses for those younger than me when they don't follow through with a task, start rumors and back stab or just cause problems using the excuse of "I didn't know". Guess what, you bought a house, had a couple kids have held a job or two in your short lifetime and you still don't know what's expected of an adult? Honesty & Respect is about all I ever ask of anyone.

Then there are the people who are old enough to know better. They have lived and experienced problems that I hope to never experience. With that I expect that they would be of a maturity level somewhat even above myself. That they would use those experiences to help them make good decisions. This is not always the case. Those I have in mind are divorced and out in the dating scene. I, coming from a loving & secure marriage, can easily say to any single friend, "dump her she's a whack job", because I have nothing to loose. But my goodness, do we have to literally act as though we're in junior high and do the "what did he say about me", 'what did she say about me"..... A little back story before I go further. Friend "A" is a man, and friend "B" is a woman both divorced and now "dating" each other.......Seriously, "A" do you need to stop me in the middle of the parking lot and tell me that "B" "slept" over last night. Woo Hoo, you got laid , big deal. When I really think, 'Wow your kids are gonna be messed up knowing that you have a revolving bedroom door.' GROW UP. Don't bring every guy home.

To make thing more interesting add in friend "C" who is B's ex bed buddy and whose kids are involved in all the same things as A and B and ME. You have yourself a certifiable triangle cause they are all in need of medication! To complicate things further, A ,B & C all agreed to help me run the auxiliary , but that was while with B was doing C ,now B is doing A and they all don't want to be in the same room together. AAH I can't take it . . They all made the commitment to me and should stick by it no matter how uncomfortable it is. Grow up and deal with it.

Oh yeah, I forgot to mention A has a boy toy who she just dumped because he was cheating on her and kicked her and threw a chair at her that happens to be 12 years her junior, who comes over and watches her kids while she is with B. Crazy I tell ya! I'll tell you this I'm not sharing a glass with any one of these letters!

Not counting the undiagnosed metal illnesses of all those involved , I've come to the conclusion that it has nothing to do with your age , And everything to do with your character.

Honesty and respect I guess it's just too much to ask for a lot of people.

Mama Bear

Tonight was Baseball practice. Pretty much the first practice without my husband physically there as coach. Now let me clarify , I do not have any delusions about my children and their behavior. I know Lucas is difficult and Matt can have an attitude that could stop a speeding train.
But when I know my kid is being picked on, he's freaking being picked on ....by the coaches and the other players. It's like somehow people enjoy setting him off.

I'm talking about Lucas. He's hot headed and always thinks he's right and will swing when somebody looks at him wrong. I know this, but you little fuckers that want to terrorize him to the breaking point deserve your asses kicked. Even if your twice his size. Now, Lucas is usually the one getting in trouble because he's usually the one causing the trouble, But my God does he have to be blamed for everything. I sat there of two hours in the f-ing cold and saw it with my own two eyes. All the kids were fooling around and Lucas has to run a lap, while all the other stinking brats watch. That was only one of the things that pissed me off tonight.

I know, adults trying their best to control ten 8-10 yrs olds. It's tough, I'll give you that but ya better try a little f-ing harder cause Number 1 not a single kid learned a bit tonight. Number 2 your kid a a sneaky little bastard that needs someone 1/2 his size to kick his Ass.

Would things have been different if Dad was there, yeah you can bet your ass. He's really hard on both of them, but can tell when he's being done wrong. And we're not having anymore of that now!

Maybe I'm not such a bad person afterall...

Today with the help of the Today show , I found a new website. It's called Truuconfessions, and it is hilarious! The idea is to allow people to confess their deepest secrets without fear of retribution. I view it as a way to get things off your chest and clear your conscience.
As I started reading it I found it to be so uplifting. Like .."Hey, I wouldn't even do that" or "OMG you did that" and "wow I'm glad I'm not the only one".

I found myself laughing out loud and dying to share what I found. Most posts are funny and some are really sad. You may be surprised how many you relate to...

Check it out!
www.truuconfessions.com

It's Wordless Wednesday again already?

Can't Wait till Spring!!!!